Keeping you safe
One of the most important parts of the lifestyle community is safety. No matter whether you are attending a large scale event, a wine bar, a house party, or playing privately, being safe, giving and receiving consent, feeling comfortable, and having bodily autonomy, are paramount for having a positive experience.
When there is something going on that isn't in the best interests of our community, it is up to all of us to step up and look out for each other. That's why a number of event and venue organisers and owners have come together to make this important announcement.
Announcement to the
Lifestyle Community
(Inc: Swinging, Kink and affiliated lifestyle endeavours)
From those who own, manage and coordinate lifestyle venues, events, social platforms and stakeholders.
To all those who make up this magnificent array of the broader ‘lifestyle’, we (as stakeholders within your community) have been brought together in light of these unprecedented circumstances.
PURR
Wet on Wellington (Melb. Saunas)
Shed 16 (Melb. Saunas)
Between Friends Wine Bar
Melbourne Swingers (Melb. Saunas)
Peninsula Sauna & Spa (Melb. Saunas)
Swing Melbourne Facebook Group
NSFW Events (Krave & Berlin xxx)
We are collectively advising this lifestyle community that we support and cherish, that the group know as ‘PRIVATE NIGHTS’ (previously known as ‘Erotic Fantasies’), and their organisers Marty & Mishka (Martin & Michelle), have officially been banned from our venues and events.
We as a group do not take this action lightly nor maliciously. This unprecedented move is being made in light of an overwhelming litany of complaints that have been brought to our collective attention, regarding the inappropriate behaviour of both the group and their organisers. Including that they have been repeatedly espousing misleading information in the attempt to appear to be aligned with, working with, or working for some of our events and businesses to inflate their importance and stature within this community.
We strongly encourage all to not simply believe us on blind faith, but to make your own informed decision.
We would like to state publicly that in spite of their assertions or claims, neither of these individuals nor ‘Private Nights’ events have ever been associated with, worked for, or represented these businesses in any way**
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(** Erotic Fantasies did hire BFWB for three events in late 2022/23 but were ejected and banned owing to damage of the venue, along with other serious and malicious transgressions)
All allegations and information at this stage are still just that, allegations. People deserve the right of presumptive innocence. We as a collective group, thus far have gathered enough information and evidence from various individuals to take this action with confidence.
Whilst the current allegations and issues have only been directed at the aforementioned ‘Private Nights’ main organisers (Martin and Michelle, aka, Marty and Mishka) and not those associated with them, we are however conscious and aware of some who may be loosely consorting with the ‘Private Nights’ and we reserve the right to act further if required.
In the interest of a fair, fun, welcoming, and above all, safe community, we wish to extend the following assistance and guidance:
If anyone has any further information regarding their own personal concerns or problem interactions with ‘Private Nights’ (Erotic Fantasies), we encourage you to reach out to us. We have engaged with law enforcement and the legal community to aid us in this matter and your privacy will be our paramount concern.
Isadora is leading the investigation. With over 20 years as a key member and figurehead of the lifestyle community, she been working behind the scenes since these issues have been brought to her attention and equally has been working to alert various other event hosts, to keep the scene safe. We do not take these matters lightly and have had many submissions already.
If you wish to assist with any relevant information, we have set up an email specifically for this task:
Freedomteamlifestyle@gmail.com
The safety of this community is our greatest concern.
With thanks and appreciation,
